First, it's about the past.
"We learn wisdom from adversity, and virtue from pain." This saying tells us that most people will experience hardships or make mistakes in some things in their life, but we should believe that it is these experiences that temper our strong mind and optimistic attitude. When we look back, many things are not worth mentioning, which is also a reflection of wisdom.
Therefore, when people are old, there is no need to easily tell their children about the "ugly things" even if they are rotten in the belly. On the one hand, these things are not honorable, if let our children know, it may damage their image of us, and even set a bad example. For example, many older people may have drunk too much alcohol or made ugly mistakes when they were younger, and these things are not worth mentioning.
Second, it is about complaining that their children are not promising.
"In this world, some people do not necessarily have money to get love; Having money does not necessarily make you happy; Happiness does not necessarily lead to health; Having good health doesn't always work out." Everyone has their own path in life, and we can't help our children forever. When we are old, our children have reached a certain age and understand the truth of life.
As parents, we should encourage them instead of complaining about their failure. No matter what happens, we should look at it with optimism, as the saying goes. As long as you and your children are in good health, this is already a great wealth.
Finally, there is the distribution of property.
"Only those who live in humble circumstances have the best chance to see the truth of society in all its forms." "Humble" here can be understood to mean that when we are in a weak position or do not have much earning power, we are better able to see the reality of people and social conditions around us. As the saying goes, "The rich have distant relatives in the mountains, but the poor have no one to ask in the busy city."
Therefore, when people are old, even if the children are dutiful, do not easily disclose the distribution of property. After all, many elderly people need to be taken care of by their children in their later years, and if the distribution of property is disclosed too early, the children may feel that it is unfair, resulting in estrangement, affecting their relationship with each other and not conducive to their later life.