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Do you think a double A-list grad student and an average junior high student will have a happy marriage?

Don't talk about specific people, just the marriage. It will be. One is devoted to scientific research, the other is devoted to logistics at home. High education does not mean a good character fish, shrimp, shrimp, eight turtle relatives. It's not like a family doesn't go into the same house. I have seen similar marriages, can only say from the human couple. How can it be, don't be naive? Marriage depends on the combination of the human soul and the communication between the heart and the heart. For example, do you guarantee that the perspective of graduate students will be consistent with the perspective of junior high school students? Or the other way around are Lu Xun and Zhu An happy? People with different views are difficult to get along with. There is a big difference between a graduate student and a junior high school student. The key to a happy marriage is emotional stability is not the academic degree this is very reasonable, there is such a pair around, female junior high school graduates can earn money and long white, male graduate students graduate from a university as a teacher, because the male is relatively idle so have time to educate the child very well, excellent student level of the Chinese Academy of Sciences many academicians' wife, very ordinary, Education is not high can not say that education is only one aspect of knowledge, values, pattern will affect it. Yang Chaoyue is also very difficult to graduate from junior high school, women look good, inner empty, a long time is also very boring shoes are not suitable only feet know for themselves is good I know a pair, male doctor, female junior high school mixed society. Do not know how they are mixed together, only know that after marriage, the woman to the child as a threat, all kinds of work, the man's family is holding the death. It's about a man and a woman, so much for a high degree in other things, maybe even lower EQ

Of these two kinds of neighbors, which one would you rather be friends with

A friend sent me a picture, teasing his neighbor's parking to save time, every time he dives in, the parking space is left on the road outside, because his parking space is on the side of the fire hydrant, can only get in from another floor, the neighbor's parking space is in front of him, every time he drives out, he has to hit an extra punch to get out. There was even a time when the back of the car was so far out that it could only get out on the side of the hydrant, causing it to scrape into the corner of the hydrant and scratch a piece. Sometimes I meet that neighbor, and that neighbor occasionally says hello, and my friend really doesn't want to talk to him. Do not know, another neighbor's parking space is similar to him, people can park straight, he lamented if the two neighbors change places. It's gotten even worse. The neighbor changed his car, and he's got more tailbacks than the old driver, and now he's got to be more careful in and out of the parking space. My friend is currently driving a car is not big, want to change the ideal L7, afraid to buy a big car access more difficult, some distress, the photo is elongated, in fact, not so wide, he tangled should not talk to him politely say this problem… Better not say… These two parking Spaces have an impact?? To get into his head without regard to his absents, this kind of rubbed off on him, is it not dependent on others, the rear of their own car left outside the building owner's friend parking space should be in the photo position right against his car, not the one behind it. However, the road is also very wide, it is said that it does not affect his car ah, the main photo is elongated, so the photo position is not so wide from the opposite side, it is suggested that the car is not against him or against himself. The design of this parking space is also level, parking out of the car, have to 3 directions or even above can be balanced, driving it. Promise can not, accommodate. Can't get used to it yet. Not yet. Stay away. Does everyone who drives think they're awesome? How come I never dare to park the scooter sideways? These two parking space design is really strange what silly bo a parking space this.. It's the driving technique. No matter how narrow the road is, two cars can stagger. That's a wide road, and he could have easily driven out even if the butt of his car was halfway in the opposite lane. The central idea of this post is to talk about the quality of the problem, not can not open into then I think you this friend is also quite no quality. Why do you complain about others when you have a problem with your driving skills? Send it to others without typing the code. Just pretend I didn't reply. It can't be deleted. Really helpless, is not the code? There is no monitoring why not communicate, or find property coordination. Maybe he can't stop talking about the uncoded text your friend sent you. I'm not talking about your hairnet. I'm talking about the Internet. It's worse. Are you that friend of yours? Now the new cars are so powerful that they park themselves in and out without requiring you to operate a space like yours that's not a trivial matter

[Qinzhou Culture] After 80, an old shit Buddha remembers a Qinzhou man

Memory will always disappear irreversibly, but people are often near death, will feel the importance of memory, want to catch but can not catch. That's when inheritance is important. Those who say they will not have children cannot possibly know what inheritance means. A few years after their death, few people will remember that at that time, they really never existed. In those days, there was not as good a way to save images as there is now, and it is very difficult to find any images now. Who else remembers the arcade that built the road? The Internet cafe in Sanyan Square? The little gate store? A blue sky model of One road? The comic book king of Little Garden? There's very little left. When we're old, what are we going to brag to our grandchildren about our toys? Hope that there are audio and video resources in that era, all show it, blow each other off the cow, I first come to the kindergarten behind the home, at that time have not heard of any children abducted, because it is very close to home, so they are walking. Before the gate above the teacher's dormitory, the big iron door has not been painted, there is a swimming pool, 1 yuan a time. There is a cement elephant slide, often go to play, will climb the fairy peach tree to pick fruit to eat when the two children and the insurance company between the folk music road is still only a mud road, has not hardened, and few people build houses there, the roadside is a small ditch and a small forest, unfortunately there are no photos. When the real small door next to the shop, selling toys, selling food, at that time the universe knight, dragon fighter, four-wheel drive are bought in the real small back door is a silk factory, there is a pond, now this stationery shop used to sell pig's foot powder, to breakfast when the boss will pull things to the back door to sell, pig's foot powder soup is only 5 cents a student now do not know how, Exam often cheat black man, proud little fox, simple and honest little monk, beautiful and hard co-exist Hua sister, want you small garden comic king is every day after school must punch the place, now also can not find photos of the rest of the toy is not much… The coexistence of happiness and pain, desire fairy want to die Baisha Street intersection rent bookstore is often to and now sell salt roast chicken is also a bookstore I can find these ┎ 〇 useless, 100 years later or no one remember you, not the problem of inheritance ┎ 〇 main floor toys a lot, comic books a lot, envy, Before we can only dig a hole in the mud ┎ 〇 she slowly forgot ┎ 〇 these things are rich people's children have, I was the first to play SONY machine, 3 yuan an hour is a luxury, then go to Internet cafes and play arcade, Internet cafes only 5-8 cents an hour, then slowly rose ┎ 〇 arcade 1 yuan 6 cards, dinosaur fast play, Xunya, electric fine, metal slug can play two clocks, two md next to the MD is 1 yuan a clock, small and fire brigade door in the middle of the snack shop PS is 1 piece 5 a clock, Internet cafe is to the university, high school did not play ┎ 〇 GP a lot of attractions, ┎ 〇 GP important, making people miss ┎ 〇 It seems that we know ┎ 〇 〇 you are? Are you also in Class 6 and 4? ┎○ When did two children start to have? ┎○ Blue sky model, I bought a lot of planes and tanks to fight, to see others four-wheel drive games, to see the boss in the first road stadium to do the earliest flying hand. I don't know why it stopped. ┎ 〇 I have casebook and CD ┎ 〇 My song is not very old. It's about more time. In the past, Jinwan that location is a hill, there is a Hangzhou Xiaolongbao, every time to eat Xiaolongbao have to walk that long stairs. Xinhua bookstore is located in the middle of the small cavalry is a video hall, when I was a child once. Video hall and ice skating rink, pool hall, game hall equal status, young people at that time the most entertainment choices are these few. Opposite is the trade union shop, that is, the location of Xiesheng, there was a fire in the 1990s, personally saw someone afraid of waiting for rescue to jump down from the upstairs, a jump after landing. The basketball court by the Union pond is also the first place to play football, and there is a bumper car playground next to it. Dongfeng Market is also from the earliest wall weed land, brick by brick to see it built up. From the earliest greenhouse vegetable wholesale, the ground is mud, and every night I see people sleeping there to guard vegetables. The area of Qinzhou Bay Square used to be a passenger station, and the area of Seg was originally a wet market with a game room. It's owned by a bearded northerner who goes to 97 sometimes. In the evening, the lights were on, and the road to the second bridge began to open air ktv street. I can't remember if it's $1 or $50 for a song. Beer is 3 yuan a bottle. It doesn't take more than 100 a night for a couple of people. Year after year that location is the waste land, and then the beauty village package down to do the night market, fire for many years, when the roast chicken feet only 1 yuan, 10 pieces of a hand, pig whip is 2.5, and the beauty village features 5 pieces or 10 pieces of passion juice. The demolition of the residential building was not very smooth, there was a nail household there for a long time, and then it was dug deep on the surrounding ground before it was settled. Too many of these memories… ┎ 〇 Xinxing Road women's post is what age ┎ 〇 I 85 years, go to kindergarten when two children have existed for many years ┎ 〇 mou these are high school to drink the university street loudspeakers often put the song ┎ 〇 comic king Lao Po suddenly don't do, a great deal of trouble ah ┎ 〇 that Qinzhou has as high as? ┎○ I play arcade is not very deep, play boxing emperor more, behind are going to Internet cafes, then Xiesheng second floor arcade, very expensive, 1 yuan a coin, but the machine is very new, go to the Golden Bay Hotel and red Sun international trade rotten end building in the middle of the arcade shop, ┎ 〇 There is no amount of ┎ I am ten years older than you ┎ 〇 Hong Mei Wei Bing ┎ 〇 The computer is very empty ┎ 〇 GP found, two children 83 years of establishment, the original second nursery ┎ 〇 no use, 100 years later, no one remember you, not the problem of inheritance found, two children 83 years of establishment, the original second nursery ┎ 〇 no use, 100 years later no one remember you, Is not the issue of inheritance ┎○ primary school graduation photo seems to have a girl called Zhang Lili, there is a boy called Shi Chaozhe, others are too vague, can not see, some people may not know ┎○ Daolang, Shuimuanhua, through kill all ages ah. The Little Tigers are good, too. ┎○ Zhang Lili do not remember, Shi Chaozhe name is very familiar. I remember Pan Yinyuan, Wu Ting, Zhang Ronghua, Liu Jiasen, Yang Huahuan (can't identify which one), Bi Bin, Su Feifei, Mousetail (name I can't remember), Teng Cheng ┎○ There were a lot of small cinemas back then, you know. ┎ 〇 ┎ 〇 main toys, a lot of comic books, envy, we could only dig a hole in the mud ┎ remember the department remember, but a stable to the photo, but ┎ 〇 GP has been in the countryside, there is no opportunity to go to school in the city ┎ 〇 miss ┎ 〇 GP reply is a kind of virtue rural people, not so much memory, some only farm work, the cow at home… . ┎○ The iconic game Hall on Baisha Street, Bookie Hall No, bad reviews! ┎ 〇 There was a row of electronic games hall on the road before, a lot of rotten children grab video game card ┎ 〇 My department to construction Road science and technology bureau opposite only double shop arcade play, sometimes to the former trend front line, Baisha Street a often go to ┎ 〇 we with kindergarten, with primary school, with junior high school. High school do not know you are still in a ┎ 〇 There are ┎ 〇 GP in the 1980s the same track, the same area, but did not know ┎ 〇 GP full of miss, time passed really fast. ┎ 〇 It seems that yesterday in the king of comic book reading, sleep all changed ┎ 〇 When a person began to nostalgia, it is his sexual decline. Lord, more and more not hard ┎○ few men do not need sexual ability ┎○ How much is Jin? I used to play games with 1 mosquito 4 coins 1 mosquito 4 coins to follow a tail

[Public view of the world] The Sky Whale settled in Mawei Sea, in the coastal park next to the sea operations

The Great Power heavy vessel Tianwhale (Tiankun is also based in Qinzhou) has been stationed in Mawei Sea for some time and is currently operating in the waters next to Binhai Park. The glorious story of this island-making artifact can be seen on Baidu, and now it will play a great role in dredging the channel of Pinglu Canal. When you come to the coastal park next to the chili mallet, you can see the huge sky whale in the distance, which has pumped a lot of silt and sea sand in the coastal park waters. There was no construction work going on when I got there, but I saw two huge sand pits and I knew they were the work of the Skywhale. The arrival of the Skywhale made the dredging of the waterway more efficient and was also an important tool for canal construction. ┎ 〇 When does the skywhale come to the university town ┎ 〇 GP weekend can go to punch ┎ 〇 I heard that it is very possible to wow ┎ 〇 〇 ┎ 〇 GP reply is a kind of goodness ┎ 〇 there should be row construction ┎○ why dig here? It seems that this is not the channel ┎○ 〇 salting sharpener!! ┎○ Island-making artifacts are not waves of vain name ┎○ How much is a? ┎ 〇 GP really want to go to see too far ┎ 〇 GP if open to Qinzhou River will slide ┎ 〇 GP this big thing can be powerful, minutes a day an island ┎ 〇 GP is the channel, Pinglu canal export ┎○ GP has come in! ┎ 〇 It seems that except Pinglu canal, Tianwhale Tiankun did not go to ┎ 〇 GP. ┎ 〇 GP has come for many days ┎ 〇 GP has been more than a month… ┎ 〇 most important my country ┎ 〇 Qinzhou has so many big guys, Pinglu canal completion is not far away ┎○ Why walk on the side? Project of the century. ┎ 〇 GP is very good, ┎ 〇 GP beautiful, finally came from the Jin Gu River ┎ 〇 GP return is a virtue ┎ 〇 only day whale in Qinzhou, day Kun is bigger than day whale, ┎ 〇 GP is smaller than imagined at present in the UAE ┎ 〇 GP will not, the division of the company different ┎ 〇 GP

Guys!! How would you feel if you received birthday wishes at twelve o 'clock sharp?

I look at the clock and the date, and then I realize, Oh, it's my birthday. Ho ho^^ ~ ^^ ~ ^^ Ha ha ha usually remember before, usually forget then… Oh, I never remember my birthday. My mom never forgets my birthday. There is no such if. I've always been the only one who remembers celebrating birthdays for all my family, and no one has ever celebrated for me in my entire life. Belong to the neglected It's always been my birthday… Ha-ha… Learn from you. Give more and get more. Find a birthday party on SP. ^^The day before yesterday was my birthday, received the first blessing is a bank credit card center!Oh I am a wanderer, usually by myself.Those are set up to respond automatically.Married him, married herYou're the lucky one. The whole world is celebrating.Ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha-haThe bank sent it to you? There's money on your card. Ha ha ha…Sometimes you buy a cake/something you like, sometimes you play with your friends, and sometimes you just go through life as usual. Heheh. It depends on the mood.Well, that's good!Heheh. Double have double warmth, single have single free and easy. There is an object to love with the lover, no object to love themselves a little more. Heheh.Since the divorce, accompany and support me is always my dream and hope, especially women after divorce will face many you can not imagine the pressure, angry, talk, complain and so on can only drag themselves back to regret and remorse.But what can give you the greatest motivation is the dream and hope, which will guide and promote you to always maintain a good attitude and motivation, realize one dream after another, let you live a luxurious and valuable life, so that all aspects of you are developing in the best direction, when you look back, you will thank the plight and adversity to bring you a better future, you will feel the gift of God to you. Thank you for all the pain of the past.Six years after the divorce, the ex-husband and the children's unfeeling, I hardly see the children, and even when I see the children, the children do not understand, and the children who have gone to college do not accept their mother, which is such a failure and blow to me.The child's disrespect must be changed, the first good, filial piety first, can not let the child reincarnation my pain and guilt, many times to the child's school and communication with the child, many failures and return, I firmly believe and insist, after all, the child will return to my side, the miracle finally came last month, the child finally enlightened! The baby came back to me! Everyone is happy!In this wish sisters and brothers!Bumpy is the best gift God gives us, with a grateful heart to return and believe that everything good, miracles will come to you!Can't find the postThe child found the heart of the mother good, congratulations ~Lovely.With a grateful heart to return and believe that everything good, miracles will come to you! supportWhose fault was the divorce? Did the kid become a judgeThat's right, dreams and hopes are the engines of creating the future! Praise your wisdom and reason! Finally in the unremitting efforts to realize the dream, to achieve the desire, the positive thought like a magnet sent a magnetic wave, attracting the positive frequency, the recovery of nature is a good result, negative can be imagined, this is the law, the law of attraction, in the hands of successful people. Be willing to convey to the person who is complaining what you want, OK?Anna, you are great, life has given you experience, let you wise, summarize the direction of progress, give it to others, know that gratitude and return, wisdom is waiting for you, you will be very happy.

[Brainstorming] We discuss, similar to the lake Yue Tianjing, the property fee price is high and the quality is poor, in Taizhou to buy second-hand housing need to avoid the pit of the community which several

Reminder: In the case of declining income, buy second-hand housing to pay special attention to the height of the annual property costs and the quality of the house. To avoid the pothole property company, to avoid the general property quality of the community, we discuss, in addition to the lake Yuetian outside, how many Tiankeng community? Lake Yue Tianjing community before buying boast 5 star service, property charges a word, expensive! The cost of housing is high and the quality of service is low. More than one hundred square meters, two years to about 10,000 yuan of property fees (including parking management fees and expensive public energy allocation), not only did not see someone door to collect garbage, Guanlan someone threw in the downstairs garbage bin was actually thrown back to the ten floors of the upstairs by the property company, surprised, out of anger! The public greening of the new community has been divided, each snatching its own grassland site, and the services are not up to five-star standards. The large electronic billboard in the community uses the owner's public share of electricity to do intermediary advertising, right? The fountain has no water to spray, the swimming pool has no water to swim, and this rainy day there is water everywhere. Seriously, I'm not even gonna get a 2-star placement. The door guard is a retiree. Do I protect him or does he protect me? The latex paint on the staircase walls is peeling, and the quality of the community is completely disproportionate to the high property charge ratio. Worst of all, the service is really bad, posing first! As a superficial article, the housekeeper often punched the card in the circle of friends! Propaganda has become the usual way to deceive people. This kind of community, the Wolf in sheep's clothing, the most terrible. While bragging about how good they are, while oppressing the owner of the house that bought it, you did not buy before it was a face, you bought its house, it is another face, its face changed quickly. It is recommended that you must polish your eyes before buying a second-hand house, you not only buy a property of general quality, but also buy a property service that can not be replaced, and the community with high property fees and low service can not be touched. There are a few Tiankeng property, lake Yue Tianjing number first? Brainstorm, we come to ridicule the high fees in Shanghai, poor service, low cost of property service companies there are a few? … For me, no illegal property is a good property! … Set up a owners' committee, fire them… Lake Yue Tianjing community inside the illegal buildings are also a lot, as long as the illegal construction does not affect others, the general people will not report… I can bear everything else, the most intolerable is the violation of the rules! … If the property company continues in this way, it will suffer losses sooner or later on the issue of collecting property fees. No payment… It's true that Country Garden's property management is very responsible. … I feel that I am right, from this person's point of view, you can see the real problem of Country Garden, which is the typical thinking of the melon eaters who are deceived by Country Garden's propaganda. … And the problem of Country Garden is that before you buy it is a face, after buying it is another face, when facing you is a face, behind the pit, it is another face, you bought the Country Garden house, you will be subject to its gas, this is the outside people can not understand, so the sea has such an idea is not strange. What you see is appearances. It's propaganda. This property has poor service, high fees, deceptive… Orange memory did not see this post… The industry committee was set up and the property chain, the owner is more trouble, after the establishment of the second phase of the industry committee did a big thing, cancel the original ground parking space in the community (free) so that the car is all parked underground garage (pay rent and management fees) to create wealth for the property company, change the so-called people and cars distribution, the original design is not people and cars distribution. What will be the result of checking whether the EIC has accepted any benefits from the property? … @Orange Memory… Country Garden property fee is not too expensive, the north property is very good, the south has not lived, do not comment… It's all broken… The beautiful name gives you a good property is actually put you clean… He's never lived in a Country Garden Estate. What the hell does he know… It's true that bragging about yourself is generally purposeful. Wouldn't it be nice to split people and cars? Now the new residential areas are all the main people and cars, compared to indiscriminate parking, people and cars are not fragrant? It doesn't make sense to spray it with this. … Country Garden will also use this owner's tone to create a false "word of mouth". The infamous Country Garden is known for its clever tricks. … People and vehicles shunt well, it brings high property costs, so much money to the property every year, all work for the property, or like the kind of low property costs of the community. … To find a reason to collect more money, to find a reason to collect money for you, some properties are directly flagrant electricity theft. … Shanghai property can only look good… You this matter, I say a few words, I guess you are not happy, after all, it involves your interests! 1. Free parking on public roads is unfair to owners without cars; 2, cancel the road public parking space, all into the underground garage. Objectively improve the environment of the community, of course, is beneficial to developers and properties! … When it comes to property, China Resources property is good. There are some drawbacks, but overall it's good. The last time we set up a trade committee, the owners were not active. … Owners do not actively participate in the establishment of the property committee, indicating that we do not feel the existence of property services, indicating that the property is silent and the service is in place. If everyone wants to set up a property committee, the property is too rubbish… From the beginning of the capital verification of the house, it has the illusion of buying a noble community, and the underground garage of the resettlement house does not have so much water! Lake Yue ground is too slippery, five star charge, a few star service? … Lake Yue Tianjing, a property company made into a resistance to the community, the community originally had a lot of free direct drinking water, and now the direct drinking water device downstairs is gone, the direct water was dismantled! South of the Country Garden property is very expensive, Lake Yue multi-storey 2 more than a square, even if a day is not living 2 more than a flat… Rob the money… Country Garden property knife is too fast, superimposed per square property fee of more than 2 pieces, equal to pay a rent every year, live in Country Garden Lake Yue Tianjing, about equal to rent in the urban old community… Every month, there are public electricity and water charges, and these costs seem to be how much the property itself is how much, it is said that the owner is shared, but who knows whether they that account is right. … And from what I've seen on TV, cancers like Wallwishers may have corrupted other units. Like using public power to intimidate disobedient property owners. … This cancer, it feels like it will be uprooted one day. So whoever was involved, consciously or not, was involved. Don't have a good time driving now. … Country Garden is out of money… These people are all working together… Community property committees all have the same interests… Looking at the essence through the phenomenon, it is that capital exploits you, buying a house pits your hard-earned money, property earns your living expenses for a lifetime) and I am the fish. Country Garden is closing down, what can he ask for? Overcome it… Country Garden's biggest pit, is the property, bought a house also long-term rent, north of how many country garden villa auction check is owed 80,000, there is a debt of more than 100,000… Property on both sides of the money, facade room electricity and street lighting fees are a fool's account… The property tax is not as good as renting, but also save the principal and eat interest… Is not the industry committee can re-select the property, Country Garden is the proud son of heaven alone… Country Garden property fee, I have not paid, learn from others, completely put rotten want to go to Hengdian World Studios to play, have been to the Baozi? To gain experience, it is best to see the actors who are filming, such as Ren Jialun… Search the Internet… Summer vacation. It was okay. Nice. It's big. Can't play all day… Hengdian has more than a dozen scenic spots composed of wechat small program medical insurance how not to pay… Good to pay for it. What's your tip? … No information yet… I have trouble with… I asked the health insurance bureau, said you can't pay in advance, only the current month's… It's just not good this month… 12345 said to check in a few days. System issues… You can check to see if it's all paid. In addition, it seems that it is not possible to pay in advance recently.

[Netizens break the news] What is the situation, an ordinary pen to sell 15, there are points ah? Is Chenguang going upscale now?

What's going on? … This is a zebra pen… Import duty Rising prices… I didn't pay for it, and now I'm in tears… It's a Japanese zebra brand… 123456… It's too expensive… This pen looks ordinary, in fact, it is a limited edition, its function is to hold the "pen". Rich people… Taking the flower route? … 123456… This is a zebra, isn't it? A Japanese brand… It works well… Easy to write, it has nothing to do with morning light… 1111… To you, a drop in the bucket! … All right… Prices are soaring… Students buy more… Willing to fight, willing to suffer… That's probably the price after all the taxes plus the brand premium… Gold pen… High price, good quality… 123456… It's not Morninglight. You bought it imported. Good for you! Or a limited edition… 111111… This one's gonna be nice… There are more expensive… Go to Pinduoduo and buy cheap… High-end pen… Greetings… 123456… I'll just see how big the red envelope is… Nowadays, many students use this brand to say that drip is more smooth and continuous ink… Stationery bought online is very cheap… Yeah, and you can write it when you drop it, but not when you drop it in the morning. 66666666666… 15 not expensive, stationery shop big dozens of special recently a printed with "picking up gold and moral integrity" Jinqi was sent to the property center of Jiangyan Magnolia Garden district the original property project security Wu Hanzhu Wu Hanzhu, 59 years old, he came to Magnolia Garden district property project department a year ago to do an ordinary security. He is hard-working, honest and trustworthy, although the monthly salary is not high, but has been relying on hard work with his hands. Because of the nature of the work, he picked up keys, ID cards, bank cards, etc., it is a common thing, each time, he will be the first time to the property center, or with colleagues to post a notice, trying to find the owner. This time to pick up the cash, it was a recent night, he as usual, holding a flashlight began to patrol. When he checked a trash can downstairs, he found a brand new shoebox on the floor. He thought it was carelessly discarded garbage, and did not think much about it, so he picked up the shoe box and prepared to throw it into the trash can. However, when he picked it up, he felt heavy and subconsciously opened it - there were several hundreds of dollars in the shoebox! Wu Hanzhu immediately realized that this may be the owner threw the wrong. Without thinking, he immediately ran to the property center of the community with the shoebox, explained the situation to Manager Zhang, and locked the shoebox in the office file cabinet. After monitoring, a search, finally found the owner. Turns out an owner of building 6 threw it away by mistake. The owner saw Wu Hanzhu, very excited, he firmly grasped Wu Hanzhu's hand, his mouth kept saying: "Master Wu, thank you so much, I really did not think that the money can be recovered…" Wu Hanzhu did not count how much money, the owner told him that there were 56,000 yuan in the shoebox. In the face of the owner's cash thanks, Wu Hanzhu refused on the spot. "I feel good that I have found the owner and returned the money," he said. In order to repay Wu Hanzhu's kindness, the owner of the property to the community Henglian sent a bright flag "collect gold, noble character" to express gratitude to Wu Hanzhu. Wu Hanzhu a month's salary is less than 2000 yuan, which is equivalent to his 3 years of salary he calmly told reporters "foreign wealth is not rich, no money we earn, can not earn without work." It can be said that Wu Hanzhu interprets the beauty of grassroots workers with practical actions. … To be a regular… The so-called moral character seems to be seen more in these people with low incomes. … This kind of move can only be said to be very rare in this world now, not to mention 50,000 or 60,000 yuan, it is estimated that 100 yuan fell on the ground, the people who found it will be pocketed and few people will return it… How else would it be news? News news? It's only when things are rare that they become news.

[Events Today in Shanghai] The top three runners of the Shanghai Marathon

Ethiopia's long-distance running kingdom… Guan Yousheng is a long-distance worker. My time is 2:02, hahaha, I run once, they can run twice. … First time, no experience, no two hours. … I don't like it. I have a lot of ambition. To make a show of oneself. … Are you from Shanghai? … The bonus is too little for 10,000 yuan, at least 100,000 yuan, which does not show the strength of Shanghai. It's impossible to think about it. … You can give… Not from Shanghai, but amateurs who run for a living. Participate in the marathon for a long time, the annual income of running this item, it is estimated that at least 30 more, but also can bring goods. The best thing about this guy is he's running a marathon this week, and he's doing it next week. People in the running circle call him a model worker. It was foreigners who took… You think these people just show up uninvited? The cost of the invitation is a big… Can you run 2.02 with no experience? … Guizhou's… It's petty to give away such a small bonus. Construction on both sides of the bridge from the end of last year to now, just 200 meters, to repair so long? And it's a mess… I don't understand… However, the main mobile phone should be changed? Cell phones can shoot stars now. … To change Huawei… Far ahead, still ahead, always ahead… That road could wreck my car! Speechless! Just a few hundred meters for a few years. That's ridiculous! … Slow work makes fine work… Dawdling… Do not repair which money Haifa city investment company is under construction in Hailing District, patiently waiting, the road is also convenient for everyone to travel in the future… North of Yingjiang Bridge, part of the lower bridge seems to be more than a year old. Including Yingjiang Bridge Bridge south, near the gas station, also more than a year. Shanghai side, building a road, are in the dawdling, can think, big place, can have how much development. … Hailing district has been read. Thank you for your valuable advice. … Who let in the north of the city, the father does not love the mother, if in the south of the city, the leader a word minutes thing… Hailing district may not even look up to their own north of the city here? Otherwise, the road construction in Hailing District would not be so slow, right? … Finally someone said this road, top top… It's been a year. When will it be… It is accurate to say that there is no year, it seems to be the end of last year, the road to the end of this year, only one year. After all, slow life in Watertown… Ha ha, lazy government… I have energy to ridicule this matter, I have Yingjiang Bridge road repair speechless, looking at other places, it is estimated that there is no such slow, completely but the people go out Ha ha, how do you not say that the city of Shanghai, don't you belong to Shanghai, the south of the city is not a person, the north of the city is not a person, Hailing District is more effective than the city to speak? … The city helps the Hailing District to build the city's main road, but the Hailing Road is responsible for the branch road by the Hailing District, the Hailing District does not give the city the right to build the city, how can the city participate? I also urgently hope that our west area of Hailing City has been taken over by the city, and the high-tech zone will continue to expand to the north, but it is not realistic. … You really cow force, also Hailing district does not delegate power, is Hailing District big or big municipal government big, is the district mayor or mayor secretary to say… I live in the north of the bridge, because the two sides of the bridge are really difficult to walk, I basically take a detour from the road in front of the station. … It feels like it's been years… Get paid for all your nonsense… Get paid every day! They want to fix it, dig it, dig it, fix it! … Hailing District Haifa City Investment Company hurry to reply to the serious concerns of the people of Hailing about your road construction work… I don't know if it's three, five, eight years

[Focus on Shanghai] The Mid-Autumn Festival rest for eight days, in the beautiful mountain village we cook and eat……

Our group of old primary school students are more than 50 years ago in the peace Street primary school graduation, but our group of old students do not rare junior high school, high school, and even university classmate gatherings, only enthusiastic primary school gatherings, because most of us are "egg drag gray" neighbors, remember more than 60 years ago many people in the first grade are still wearing "open pants" it. Mid-Autumn Festival small holiday, we three car road trip to the old classmate surnamed Li in Tianmu Lake a quiet and beautiful small village, a big yard, three upstairs downstairs, eat and live naturally very convenient! In the old male and female students of our six male students are after all childhood hard life strange, very good at housework, except I opened a restaurant, the other five male students are very good at cooking, and Dai Hongcai (big eyes art troupe head), Jiang Jianping (Jiang Panfang son) cooking food should be better than us, because he is the eldest son, naturally will take on more housework. And female students may not cook better than us. Of course, arrange them to wash vegetables, fire the stove, wrap wontons, and do hygiene. The vegetables in the garden near the house were very fresh, and the pumpkins had been picked by the master long before we arrived, and were piled in the garden for us to take home to the city. We use the old stove for cooking or cooking, we burn the thatched wood picked up from the mountain, because cooking with the old stove not only has a sense of nostalgia, but also an unforgettable sense of memory, and a different kind of interest! This time it was the turn of Zhang Juncheng (the big boss of the game machine in Shanghai) to be the chef, Bao Gong (his father's old cadre from Shandong to the south) to cooperate, Wang Chunping (former Daxi hydrology station master) to inspect. We cooked 16 dishes at noon and 18 dishes in the evening, which was a full table, and everyone cooperated very well. Female students drink red wine, male students eat "national edge", everyone toasts during the dinner, you come to me, never refuse, how much you can drink. After all, I grew up as a neighbor, went to school as a classmate, went to the countryside as an informed worker, and returned to the city as a worker……. Murmur -- Good brother, the next class reunion or outdoor outing, bring my universal firewood stove, easy to disassemble, cooking barbecue, comprehensive integration, firewood stove I sponsor! … At this age, it is not easy for elementary school students to gather so many people… Is there one with big eyes… Big eyes art… Do it yourself, feed yourself. The sting lies in the human fireworks, not fighting for food day and night. … Big eyes from Changzhou Wow… What a long friendship… Jiang Panfang's son has changed little. … Look at the peers, women are generally more than ten years older than men… Yes, his wife Teacher Shi is from Changzhou… Envy envy hate! … That's so nice… No, the girls look so young to me… I don't know… Well said… You know each other… Dinner 18 dishes, a cover to eat the big belly Xing xing column. … Compared to the man in the photo, he looks older than the man, the man looks younger… How about you? How's it going? … Playing arcade, used to catch loose, now he's a casino guy… Looking forward to the old life… Envy, jealousy… Okay, okay… How can people do this all day? Nice, nice event… I am not immortal, certainly older than men of the same age, do not admit it is useless, this is an indisputable fact! Which do you think looks older, a 60-year-old man or a 60-year-old woman? … Old lady, man can still… I feel like you should be young… My husband is five years older than me, but we go out together, people think I am five years older than my husband, you think I am very young? It means you're not feeling good! … Ha-ha, you are too little moist wow, more moist moist, you two will be reversed… One brother does not forget the original intention, Zan-zan-Zan… Hey, hey, hey… Your name is well chosen, Grand Maester… I don't care, I think you're complimenting me… In the first photo, the one wearing a floral dress in the front row is teacher Shi Shouhua… Shanghai Kunlun Garden "conspicuous bag" warning sign, you are really garbage!!! Kunlun Garden turning junction, the most "there is no silver three hundred and two" is also surprising. Intimate tips, prohibit littering, as a result, by a lot of people's friendly care. A lot of people dropping their kids off at school just threw their hands under the No signs. One by one. I do not know how to deal with this, how is it so difficult 30 meters in front of it, can not walk over it. … Netizen Erguotou: Hello! We have been informed of the problem you have expressed. Receive the notice of the sanitation department, the temporary garbage can point of Kunlun Garden small area, and carry out the removal of barrels and point action. Our property company actively responded, and informed through various forms of publicity, there are still some owners do not cooperate, and the garbage is not correctly placed in the garbage kiosk! The site has been cleaned! Kunlun Property Company Kunlun Garden Management Office September 28, 2023… Maybe if you take the sign away, people won't lose it… Your good neighbor… Netizen Erguotou: Hello! We have been informed of the problem you have expressed. Receive the notice of the sanitation department, the temporary garbage can point of Kunlun Garden small area, and carry out the removal of barrels and point action. Our property company actively responded, and informed through various forms of publicity, there are still some owners do not cooperate, and the garbage is not correctly placed in the garbage kiosk! The site has been cleaned! Kunlun Property Company Kunlun Garden Management Office September 28, 2023… Is the surveillance exposed… How do you say this? Every neighborhood has those guys… Is it the one with the missing tail… Using the Chinese curse will definitely work. … Shouldn't… Is it convenient for residents to withdraw barrels and point them? Toss a yarn, the convenience of the people is the hard way! … In the setting of garbage points, the first thing to consider is the convenience of residents. Before there were garbage cans, there was never any litter in the community. Is it necessary to think about the rationality of the setting? … Just want to say put a trash can in there, and then look at the original response is to withdraw the bucket and point, well, the policy, maybe the reality can give the answer is reasonable or unreasonable.

When consumers are commoditized

Like Kafka, Freud has become part of our thought - our common property, so to speak. We are familiar with concepts such as the unconscious, id, ego and superego. George Herbert Mead, the philosopher, sociologist, and psychologist who contributed so much to our thinking about identity, did not use these terms, but ultimately he had the same thing in mind when he spoke of the "Lord and I" and the "guest and I." The "Lord I" is the result of my thinking, the thing that I really am, the real thing. But I am divided, because in addition to this internal "Lord me," there is an external "guest me," that is, the beliefs of the people around me about me, about me, about what I really am. Our life is a struggle for peaceful coexistence between "the Lord" and "the guest". Mead says that an individual's identity is determined through interaction with other individuals. There are many different "guest selves," and the task of the "Lord's self" is to synthesize them into a coherent self-image. In "fluid" or "transient" modernity, identity in its current form is related to such interactions, but more complex. Nowadays, each person has not only multiple "guest selves", but also multiple "Lord selves". You are particularly concerned about this phenomenon. Today, identity is a matter of negotiation. It does flow. We are not born with an established identity that will never change. Plus, we can be multiple people at the same time. When chatting on social networking platforms, you can choose a specific identity in the conversation, and then choose another identity in the next conversation. You can change your identity at any time, and different identities come and go. The interaction between the "I" and the "superego," or the "Lord" and the "guest" is part of our daily work. Freud laid the foundation for our understanding of this interaction. In the context of criticizing today's rampant consumerism, you've discussed the idea of identity as a fashion accessory. You say that the consumer society makes it difficult to be happy because it depends on our unhappiness. In this context, the word "unhappy" is too big. But every marketing manager will insist that his product will satisfy consumers. If that were true, we wouldn't have a consumer economy. If the need is really met, there is no reason to iterate on the product. The left in 1968 called this the "horror of consumerism." What is the difference between consumption and consumerism? Consumption is a characteristic of the individual; consumerism is a characteristic of society. In a consumerist society, the ability to want, desire, and desire something is removed from the individual. It is materialized, which means that it becomes a force outside the individual. It is difficult, or almost impossible, to resist this force, because everyone is subject to it. The desire to satisfy all the needs created by business becomes an addiction that binds society together as a whole. To understand this, one needs to look at history. At the end of the 19th century, many artisans lost their workshops and fell into poverty. But the new factory owners, whose actions had led to the development, again found it difficult to find enough workers. As long as there is bread to eat every day, they will not be willing to submit to the discipline demanded by the factory. The pioneers of the modern market economy feared craftsmen. The bogeyman feared in today's consumer economy is the traditional consumer, because the traditional consumer is satisfied with the product she/he buys. Rather, in contrast to previous forms of consumption, consumerism associated happiness with an increase in the number of desires rather than the satisfaction of needs. This growth requires the constant and rapid use of new things to satisfy these desires. Although the consumerist society claims that satisfying the consumer is its goal, in fact the satisfied consumer is its greatest threat, because it can only continue to thrive if its members are not satisfied. The main goal of marketing is not to create new goods, but to create new demand. That's why products that were the latest in style and advertised as objects of desire a moment ago can suddenly be derided as "obsolete." Children as young as five years old are trained by the consumer society to be "dissatisfied consumers." On Sundays, they will go shopping with their parents in a world full of interesting, exciting and tempting goods. When they get tired of it, they throw it away. Markets include not only goods, but also consumers. As you say, they are also commodified, which brings us back to the question of identity. Consumerist culture is characterized by the pressure to be someone else, to acquire traits that are in demand in the marketplace. Today, you have to market yourself, you have to think of yourself as a commodity, as a product that attracts customers. Members of a mature consumerist society are themselves consumer goods. Paradoxically, this compulsion - which forces you to emulate the "deserving" lifestyle being peddled by current market sellers and thus modify your own identity - is not perceived as external pressure, but as an expression of personal freedom. Today, many young people only want to become famous by Posting videos on social networking platforms or any other means. As for what else they could do, they had no specific idea. What does that mean? For them, being famous means being in the headlines of thousands of newspapers, or appearing on millions of screens, being talked about, being noticed, being wanted - like the bags and shoes and gadgets in glossy magazines that they want for themselves. Turning yourself into a desired, marketable commodity increases one's chances of getting the most attention, fame, and wealth out of the competition. This is what today's dreams and fairy tales are made of. According to French sociologist Francois de Sangli, identity is no longer a question of roots. Instead, he used the metaphor of an anchor. Unlike pulling out one's roots and freeing oneself from the guardianship of society, pulling an anchor is neither irreversible nor a decisive event. You don't like that. Why? We can only become someone else if we cease to be what we are now, so we must abandon our former selves forever. Because of the endless stream of new options, it won't be long before we see our current selves as outdated, unsatisfactory, and uncomfortable. Doesn't the ability to change what we are also contain the power of liberation? Whether in the United States or New Zealand, then or now, this is the motto of the people: Reinvent yourself! Of course, this strategy is not new: When things get tough, turn around and run. People try to do that all the time. What's new, though, is escaping your own desires by choosing a new self from the catalog. What began as confident steps toward a new horizon soon became an obsessive routine. The liberating "you can be someone else" becomes the compulsive "you must be someone else." This sense of obligation is not like the freedom people seek, and many people rebel against it.

Going deep into Shanxi, it can even take more than 100 days

In the singing of Shanxi Zuoquan folk song "Peach Blossom, Red Apricot and White Flowers", Jiang Jianbo, a scholar of cultural travel and master's tutor of Shanxi University of Finance and Economics, visited Shanghai Library (East Hall) to share his new book "Shanxi on the Earth", and told about this calm and heavy province through multiple groups of human geography dialogues. He said that the warm and traditional Shanxi people, the open and enterprising Shanghai people, different Chinese people are working together to build the same Chinese dream. "The steadiness of Shanxi and the exuberance of Shanghai constitute China's past, present and future." At the sharing meeting on November 11, Jiang Jianbo mentioned, "Shanxi on the earth is built on the four-dimensional overall space of 'heaven - earth - God - man'. If we take a more grand position and look from Shanxi in the mountains and rivers to Shanghai in the East China Sea, a space with similar connections will be presented to us." And this is 4100 years ago, Hedong salt pond (located in Yuncheng, Shanxi Province), the two ancestors Shun, Yu led the ministers to sing the song, meaning the pursuit of light, the revival of China. For example, on the human and divine level, the City God Temple in Shanghai is dedicated to Huo Guang, whose ancestor was named after his founding at the foot of Huoshan Mountain in Shanxi Province. Songjiang Tang Jing Building in Shanghai and Wutai Foguang Temple in Shanxi are both powerful witnesses of the Sinicization of Buddhism. Shanghai Tower and Yingxian Wooden Tower both use the "double sleeve" building structure. "Shanxi on the Earth" is described in 28 representative geographical coordinates, including Huanghe Jinshan Grand Canyon, Hedong Yanchi, Wutai Mountain, Yingxian Wooden Tower, Xinghua Village, and so on, which is called "Shanxi Museum on paper" by readers. The book describes in detail the structure of this wooden peak tower in Ying County: entering the first floor, you can see a circle of outer columns and a circle of inner columns, and the octagonal plane of the tower is divided into a corridor for believers to walk and worship (outer slot) and the tower ventricle for enshrines the solemn Buddha statue (inner slot). Inside the center of the tower, in addition to the two north and south walls, the other six walls are painted with six large Buddhas with circular arches 趺坐. Together with the 11-meter-high sitting Buddha in the center, they form the layout of the past seven Buddhas. Looking around, it is also seen that the inner groove and the outer groove are closely connected through the longitudinal and transverse structures such as beams and square beams, forming a double sleeve structure with strong rigidity. Modern architecture calls this mode "tube in tube". In Jiang Jianbo's view, to understand Shanxi, just skimming a few places, is far from enough, "go deep into Shanxi, and even spend more than 100 days." He suggested to the reader that the plan could be based on the four counties in Shanxi during the Han Dynasty. In Yanmen County, Xinzhou, Shuozhou and Datong, you can enjoy the most splendid ancient Buddhist art in Shanxi. In Taiyuan County of Jinzhong, the provincial capital and its vicinity gather rich museum resources and Jinshang ancient town style; Hedong County in the south of Shanxi Province, which is equivalent to Linfen City and Yuncheng City, is an important area where Yao, Shun and Yu created rituals and music, so many ancestral temples were left, including the tomb of Emperor Shun and the Temple of Guan Di. Finally, Shangdang County in the southeast of Jin retains a large number of relatively complete local architectural groups, and the "Golden Triangle of ancient architecture" composed of Gaoping City, Lingchuan County and Zezhou County is worth appreciating. Book reviewer, Shanxi Radio and television editor Xu Wensheng also came to the scene that day. He commented: "This book is also a good book for the world to re-understand Shanxi and China. In the formation and trend of freedom and unity, individuality and commonality, Shanxi has gradually formed the values of "stability as the root, people-oriented, Shou as the principle, and harmony as the purpose" at the beginning of the farming civilization, and it is deeply rooted in the soul and genes of the people, and has an influence to this day. In the view of Qin Chang, the host of the scene, from Shanxi on the Loess Plateau to the Oriental pearl Shanghai, in the face of the great clash of cultures, it is because the Chinese nation's basic adherence to the "ritual and music order", the fundamental confidence and strong sense of belonging to thousands of years of excellent traditional culture, so that we can again and again internalize foreign thoughts and cultures into elements that meet our own development requirements. In order to achieve the stable operation of society, "This is the most exciting sentiment of this lecture."

I graduated 4 years ago, changed 4 jobs, 2 months of hard work to achieve a magnificent identity turn

After graduation and working for four years, I realized a magnificent turn of identity within a month and finally became a university teacher. Like many graduates, when I first graduated, I had no worries and wanted to go out and earn more money. As a result, I have changed four jobs in four years, and my salary has also changed from 4,000 to 6,000 to 10,000 before, and then to 6,000 now. In general, although I can't earn as much as my classmates in first-tier cities in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, I can cope with my daily expenses, and I can also have 25w more and a lot of savings. But as the girlfriend became a wife, and her job became stable in the local area. In addition, there is a wife, a house is the place is home, do not want to live most of the time is divided between two places, only through the year through vacation or leave to be together. Therefore, in June this year, I decisively gave up the opportunity of high salary outside and chose a job in the same city with my wife. Although in the same city, but the home and work are not close to each other, it takes an hour or two to travel back and forth, my wife is still on the Internet to help me pay attention to the right opportunities. Just in August, my wife saw a university recruitment career management teacher announcement, and this university is only a road away from our community. When I saw this announcement, I was also moved, because my ideal life is to walk home within ten minutes after work! In order to successfully enter the school work, you must go through a written test and a structured interview. As a result, I began to actively prepare for the preliminary exam, that is, the written test, as required. Because the written test does not specify the textbook, I can only according to what they say on the Internet to search for textbooks to buy review. Because I am reviewing while working, compared with those fresh graduates who are very tight on time, I squeeze time to read it after work, and I record what I have learned and need to remember into audio, and listen to it repeatedly on the way to work every day by riding a tram, and finally I can tell almost every important knowledge point. However, sometimes fate is always joking with you, in the review of more than half a month, into the examination room, when the paper was issued down when I knew that the original review content and the knowledge to be tested is very different, with their own accumulation I am serious really done, until the last moment to hand in the paper, feel that this will be finished, the content of the review did not test, see the knowledge is white. I didn't expect to make it to the interview (nearly 300 people took the initial audition, and only 30 more made it), so I was ready to continue my good work. I was afraid to go to the school bulletin, afraid of not seeing my name, afraid of being disappointed, afraid of being hit. On the third day after the exam, I was in the workshop to follow up the production progress, suddenly heard the wechat ring, open a look, is the wife sent a message. It turned out that I entered the second interview, although it was the identity of the last risk, but at least there is a chance to participate in the second interview. The good thing is, I was only four points away from the first place. Now that God has given me another chance, I must seize it all the more. The second interview is divided into two parts: lecture + answer questions. Because I had not been on the platform before and had no experience, I thought about it a little bit, first I thoroughly understood what I wanted to talk about, and then tried to talk about it again and again. However, I had no idea of the effect of the trial, so I asked my wife and her aunt and uncle to watch it and give comments; In addition, I made a video of my trial lecture and sent it to my sister in other places, because she is a teacher, and asked her to give some remote guidance. In this way, I practiced over and over again, from the beginning of the speech stutter, physical tension to the end of the natural speech, the performance of the natural, and able to communicate with the "unreal student" naturally. I feel very satisfied with the final result, so I am very confident. On the day of the second interview, I saw that many people were holding lesson plans, and the school also required handwritten lesson plans, which needed to be handed in at the end. Although I have written it, I am not going to take it during the lecture because all the knowledge I need for the whole class is in my head. The trial process was good on the whole, but there were two aspects I was not satisfied with: the content was not finished in the prescribed time; I made a mistake in the process of writing on the board. Knowledge "gain" has a delay, and it will really bring you unexpected happiness at some point, so don't think that some things I have learned in vain, and I have not used them at all, and maybe one day these so-called unused knowledge has become something that changes your fate. The final results came out, I took the test 90.69, and at that time the first test of our professional (when we signed up, he forgot to copy information, I rode a trolley with him to copy, so we met). With only 80 points, it looks like all I have to do is beat second place. After the interview, the announcement was made the next afternoon, and I was the only teacher hired in my major. Therefore, you must not give up until the end, even if you may not be satisfactory at the beginning for some reason, but you have to do your best to do the best in the back, then you may become a counter-attacker. Next is the normal political review, physical examination, training process… I will also change from a wage earner to an educator. I believe that this job should not only be a job, but also my lifelong career. I also believe that my family life is in the future!

Is the green mountains can bury bones, he is sad night rain alone

It is ridiculous and enviable to steal these two poems from Su Shi. When I read this poem for the first time, my envy is beyond words. Good friends are hard to come by, not to mention blood relatives. Yesterday's rain came as expected, but this morning's air is not fresh, but more dreary. Thinking of the joy of the first growth of a child in my family, I decided to write a few words to commemorate this first time. I don't seem to have written any little stories about my brother, but there is nothing interesting about him. My mom remembers her son as the one who went to school crooked and came home with seven or eight books and awards, so much so that she thought he'd taken all the school prizes home. I just remember when I was a kid, LG kids couldn't tell the difference between the boys' room and the girls' room, and when he first went to school, he followed his little plum to the girls' room, so there was a joke that made me laugh for a long time. Mother's memory of the son, is fine and difficult to feed, fast one year old to eat complementary food, feed more vomiting, but where the epidemic cold our family is a regular. So much so that in junior high, my mother was still worried about him eating and getting sick. But these are unique memories as a mother, occasionally mentioned in casual chats. Of course I don't care, as long as he doesn't vomit on me. I remember every year back to the village, but there are always people praise my mother, said my brother's clothes are clean every day. I think there are some credits, but not much, mainly because my brother's coward does not step on puddles, does not go to the river, does not roll on the ground, I do not seem to remember him playing in the mud. The weirdest thing about this kid is that he never goes to the fields. Originally during the holiday, as long as he was willing to go to the field with my mother to pick two beans back, I could watch my TV series without being disturbed. But he didn't seem to fit in with the dirt, so much so that either he was left at home to interrupt my TV viewing, or I ran out of breath to pick a bean cucumber during a commercial break. So when he was young, he could not see the shadow of a boy. I don't really remember whether we were close or not, and the ten year age difference made me reject his qualifications at any time. Even my father took him to eat KFC I do not envy, a few years ago when our county had the first KFC. But before there was KFC in the county, my dad had already taken me to eat it. Probably once teased my sister, my brother, he and my Cousins to play, with them a bunch of people back "Qinyuan Spring Snow", did not expect to stand out is my brother, at that time he did not even know all the words. When I got to high school, I had less contact with him, and our conversations were basically, "Go, get me something to eat." I don't even play games with him. It's no challenge. My mom and my brother played Gold Diggers all the time, but I stopped playing gamepads. I was playing QQ Speed. And then I moved, and then I went to college. One summer vacation to the square to play, curious whether he can carry me, he took a horse step posture, carrying my huge body, was my sister left a picture of me abusing him. And then he was robbed of his money. He rode the bike I bought him and took the wallet I gave him to the stationery store to buy things. Got kicked over by some junior high punks and grabbed his wallet. I was thousands of miles away from him at that time, and it took me a long time to hear about it, so he ate it himself. I'm sure my mom didn't blame him, comforted him, gave him money. His vent for this was to keep running for a semester, which is probably the most courageous thing he has done in the past 20 years. Since then is the beginning of the small rise, there are several schools called, said to the bonus Bala Bala. My mom said where to go. I said to go to Xiangjiang, can not pass the money to go, there is no reason to hesitate. It seems that because of the hukou and the score, he does not need to donate air conditioning before the exam 50. Then he got into the exam (in the top 30) and arranged the accommodation smoothly. Yesterday, contact LG children, told him to receive SF Express immediately to pick up, bought cherries, should be able to catch up with today at noon to eat. And then we're talking about Tangshan, Barabala. The whole three hours of conversation made my mouth dry. These three hours were like a magical opening. I don't know how to describe it. It's a very strange feeling. It is such a person who has been tied since he was born, you remember the way he babbled, remember the childhood. You have a ten-year time difference, and that time difference has often prevented you from being equal, so you are used to such an unequal state of equality. If the other person has a need, it is a habit, responsibility to meet him. He has little to worry about when it comes to buying big things like mobile phones and computers. Of course, you also have your own part of the priority right, you can direct him to work, wash the dishes, pick up the delivery, carry the bucket of water. No matter how much he doesn't like it, the home delivery is always his phone. Small things that two people can solve, you have a part of the priority to escape. You are partly responsible for taking on a little more of what neither of you can easily solve. There is nothing wrong with this state, there is nothing abnormal about this state, we have been in this state for a long time. Like a lot of times, my mom's first response to my brother was to call me. And as long as my brother is home, I just throw the trash out the door and he does the rest. When cleaning the house, I only need to wash and wipe, tidy up the details of the place, the ground of each room is he to drag, usually he is also more work. This is a state that has been going on for many years, and we are close and happy and satisfied with it. All along, what I expected or asked of him was to make it easy for me in the little things, to keep me from being tired. But yesterday I found a different kind of satisfaction in this brother-sister relationship, one that I had never expected from him. A spiritual comfort, an appreciation beyond the family. He showed his adult side, or for the first time he smoothed out the time gap between us and showed his mature, rational side. It amazes me, it makes me feel like we can be friends, but I don't have to subconsciously be your kind of friend. Of course, I used to think that we could discuss anything at will, but before that, my psychological state was more about relatives, which was an extension of the family, no matter who played my brother, we would have such a bond, we are family members, so it is a state of acceptance, you are healthy, I accept, you are sick, I accept, you are excellent, I accept. I accept your mediocrity. But yesterday, for the first time, I realized that I really like your point of view, I like the way you think about things, I appreciate your conversation, your insight, it's not about family. We're family, but I don't even have the conversation and the fun you do. If we weren't family, I'd still admire you and be attracted to your charm.I don't know what kind of state this is, maybe it should have been like this, but in the past time, I was narrow and didn't see the charm of LG students' independent personality. Or in the flow of time, LG students from small friends to big friends to adults with traces of maturity? It's also true that I don't have any friends ten years younger than me, so it's hard to judge. In short, like a new spark, touching the heart. I hope that after ten years, we will all become independent, mature people with their own lives, and we will be able to appreciate and accept each other, and we will want to be good friends without blood relations.

Be a reader of idle books

Since childhood, many people have asked me questions about "reading" on various occasions, which can be summarized as follows:What kind of books do you like to read?You read so many books, what's the use?You read so many books, can you remember?However, a scene that impressed me deeply was that I went to interview the legal affairs of an airline company when I graduated from graduate school. During the on-site structured interview, one of the leaders read my resume and asked, "Look at your resume and you like reading books, what books have you been reading recently?"I replied, "The Right Bank of the Erguna River by Chi Zijian."And then, there was no then…I think it is probably because this book is too small for them, there is no control of people, there is no management, and there is no promotion and wealth…When there are many roads, we get lost because we don't know where to go."However, I think there is a kind of utilitarian orientation behind these problems, that is, reading is to obtain certain "benefits" that are best materialized and measurable, and to achieve "usefulness".Indeed, reading has many benefits, as the old saying goes :" In the book there is a golden house, in the book there is a jade." Both ancient and modern people know that reading is of great benefit. In a nutshell, it allows people to acquire all kinds of knowledge that make our lives better, to see things without leaving the house, and to become a happier person. Especially if you read a novel, after reading a book, you will seem to follow the protagonist through his life, which is not very wonderful life experience.However, if something becomes utilitarian, task and force to get positive benefits from it, then things will change qualitatively in the "bad direction", and you will feel boring, limited and greatly burdened.I still remember when I read the Harry Potter series in the fourth grade of primary school, I could read one book a day without eating or sleeping. My mother shouted that I would not eat, so that she angrily gave an ultimatum: if I do not go to eat, I will burn my book. Only then did I close the book sulkily.But since then I have thoroughly liked reading, here I want to thank my elder sister, she was in college, every summer vacation and winter vacation, will bring me a variety of books. From this experience, it shouldn't be hard to get a child to love reading, the key is to find a suitable set of books for entry level, hahaha. After I went to middle school and high school, every summer vacation and winter vacation, I would pour out a bag of books at home, and then choose what I want to see, such as Gone with the Wind, I read it many times, so that I think my personality is a little like the heroine; For example, "Sophie's World", every time I watch it, I wonder if one day my world will appear a mysterious person who writes to me or a magical rabbit; And "Harry Potter" series, in fact, I don't like the halo of the protagonist Harry Potter, I like the elf Dobby…After I went to college, I was more free, I could read hundreds of books every year, and slowly formed my own reading style and preferences.Wait for work, ahem… My reading state will return to the stage of pre-school-age children. I want to read, but I can't settle down. It's not that I don't have time, but I just can't settle down. ?Duan said that reading should return to the original heart, relaxed and enjoyable.I deeply believe that the most natural state of life is to go along with it, don't force yourself to do anything, don't work against yourself, otherwise the life is too twisted. For a long time, I lived to challenge myself, like to run half a horse. Then because the amount of exercise is too big, headache for a week, the old doctor of the school hospital said: Are you in the physical education department? Did your parents send you here so you could run? Do you see athletes living a long life? Look at that turtle. Do you know Nan Huaijin? I thought, Grandpa know so much, see a disease even turtle ah, Nan Huaijin old man ah are pulled on. But no nonsense, since then I have figured out: people do not challenge themselves, do not work against themselves, to take care of their bodies.Similarly, reading is the same, the recent period of time do not want to see, there is always want to see time; Which book can make you feel happy at this stage, then read it, there is no need to read the "book" in the eyes of successful people, as long as it is happy to read, whether it is a novel or popular science or children's picture books or management books, you can read it; On the contrary, now many best-selling covers will write XX star recommendations, sales XX million copies, but really not suitable for you.Anyway, don't follow the crowd in anything.For example, before going to college, I really liked to watch the world novel classics, those famous I have read many, the four classics have also read. But after going to college, it seems that my "novel nerve" was completely closed, and I could not read it anyway, so I turned to philosophy, economics and prose. After work, I like to read some more esoteric and obscure books, such as management, research on human thinking patterns, behavior patterns and so on.In general, it seems to be a stage of development from the outside to the inside.Read different books at different stages of life.In short, if you want to avoid hating reading, you have to follow your own taste; If you want to like reading, you have to read non-professional, non-work related, so that you can not burden, aimless easy reading.But in the end, there will also be unexpected blessings, such as being able to sit and lie down during the epidemic…

The meeting of apathy and neuroticism

Originally read an article "Xiaofang" these two days from time to time from the brain, can not sleep in the morning, opened and looked at the text described in the book, "This different principle is like this: in the rural world, a lot of things happen every day, because there are so many things, so that people no longer put those things involved, so become indifferent; In our world, nothing happens every day, so people take everything as a thing and become neurotic. The world of apathy and the world of neuroticism are two radios on different bands, each singing its own drama." Think about your family and work, suddenly put those people and these words on the number, the original and people's world is really completely different, I like to walk through two completely different worlds, stumbling, really need to exercise mental health, do not practice really easy to get sick. Cold worldTaking advantage of the holiday tail, went back to my mother's home, know that my grandfather's illness is more serious, an uncle found a short-sighted…… Looking at the family without waves and habits of talking about, some hard part of the heart began to dull pain…… Indifference is the world's defensive shell. Neurotic worldThe leader is a delicate and some neurotic woman, for a long time stuck in her influence on me can not come out, this influence can not be explained, unclear, the overall feeling is uncomfortable, and her intersection performance is that she from time to time and others say (most of the time I am at the scene) my nondescript, hate iron not steel, mud can not help the wall, The real performance is that their work is marginalized, the evaluation of the award is not known, and the distribution of interests is not shared. My overall feeling towards her was that I had somehow become her imaginary enemy, and from time to time I accepted her words that she stood on the moral high ground in the name of being good to me, and sometimes there were people's stumbles while there was no support for work resources. The impact of this feeling and current situation on my body was that my hair fell off a lot and even appeared bald spots for a time.But it can't be said that she is bad, because as a subordinate, I did not carry out the work she wanted me to do (at the beginning, I did devote myself to it, but later, due to limited practical conditions, I really could not do it), although most of the work is more hard, but always can not do her point, under the grievances of her emotions and the uneven distribution of reality, I chose the defensive method of indifference, ignoring her emotions and rewards and punishments, working hard, doing the work that needed hard work, drilling the knowledge that needed research, and learning how to cultivate the mind, how to achieve mental balance and health at other times.The real work is so complex and simple and awkward, I am at a loss and firmly crawling. Come acrossDon't be afraid of cracks, cracks is where the light comes in, the text is limited, no longer one by one,…… The reality is that I have gradually figured out a way to sing my own drama without losing my feelings in an indifferent and neurotic world, without disturbing the original band, and no longer foolhardy but gradually firm and powerful, which should be maturity.

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